Have you ever left a conversation or a situation feeling like you deserved better than what you got? Have you ever left feeling like you were treated poorly or unfairly by a colleague, friend or even a family member?
Is it sometimes easier to defend someone else than it is to defend ourselves from poor treatment? the answer is Yes. Because when defending other people, it does not seem selfish or personal. How about if we had our own personal bill of rights to help us be our best advocate.
When we read the term bill of rights, we automatically think of the universal declaration of human rights which includes 30 rights and freedoms for all of humanity. So how about having a guide to how we expect to be treated and thus having a way to affirm our self-worth.
For us to implement the personal bill of rights, we have to be more assertive and bolder in what we can and cannot condone. Does this mean that people will automatically accept the new you? Of course, not but let that be their problem; not your problem because emotional self-care is paramount to your overall well-being.
With time the important people in our lives will be able to listen to us and understand us. By applying the personal bill of rights for ourselves we are able to appreciate that we also need to give the same to other people. With rights come great responsibilities, so we should always endeavor to protect the rights of others.
Below are some of the rights I came across;
- I have the right to ask for what I want.
- I have the right to say “no” to requests or demands I can’t meet.
- I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative.
- I have the right to change my mind.
- I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.
- I have the right to follow my own standards.
- I have the right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe, or it violates my values.
- I have the right to determine my own priorities.
- I have the right not to be responsible for others’ behavior, actions, feelings, or problems.
- I have the right to expect honesty from others.
- I have the right to be angry at someone I love.
- I have the right to be uniquely myself.
- I have the right to feel scared and say “I’m scared.”
- I have the right to say “I don’t know.”
- I have the right not to give excuses or reasons for my behavior.
- I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings.
- I have the right to my own needs for personal space and time.
- I have the right to be playful and frivolous.
- I have the right to be healthier than those around me.
- I have the right to be in a non-abusive environment.
- I have the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.
- I have the right to change and grow.
- I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.
- I have the right to be treated with dignity and respect.
- I have the right to be happy.
Do you find that some of these rights make you uncomfortable? Could it be one of the rights that you need to be more assertive about ? Or maybe you have never thought about it as a right ?
Share your views on the personal bill of rights? have tried something similar? do you have any more rights that would be beneficial to my readers and I. I look forward to hearing your thoughts on the same.